Discover how practicing gratitude helps your love for God and strengthens connections with others. Transform your relationships through appreciation.
In this message, we explore the profound connection between gratitude and love. Discover how incorporating gratitude into your daily life can deepen your relationship with God and enhance your love for others. We’ll share practical tips, personal stories, and insights into how gratitude transforms your perspective and strengthens your bonds with those around you. Join us on this journey to cultivate a heart full of appreciation and love!
Trevor H. Lund is the founder of Live LIGHT Academy at https://livelight.ca/ and the Creative Storyteller at https://revtrev.com He helps you give thanks with your whole heart https://revtrev.link/heart Check out https://revtrev.com/tv for past videos and live casts and https://revtrev.com/radio to subscribe to his podcast wherever you listen.
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When was the last time you stop to think about the unknowable love God? (Ephesians 3:16-19) I’ve been thinking about that a lot lately. And I think I caught a glimpse of what Paul was talking about.
Ephesians 3:16-19 (NLT) I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.
How I caught a glimpse of unknowable love
I was talking with this guy and trying to find out about him. I asked if he was married. And he said “I was, but it’s hard to live with a woman…I got married again, back home in the Philippines, but it’s hard to be so far away.”
I shared with him, “Next spring I’ll be married for 30 years.”
“Wow he said, how can you stayed married for 30 years?”
I replied. “It’s not me, it’s my wife. She’s the one who has had to put up with me this whole time.” And I followed up with “You need to love your wife and let her love you.”
But that got me thinking about how much I loved Karen when we were engaged to be married. I thought I was at the top of my love. I was bursting. Then when we got married and lived together, I knew the love I felt for her before we were sharing a life was nothing compared to the love I we shared when we did life together.
Life has hardly been easy, but we’ve purchased homes together and had kids together and raised kids together. Buried love ones together. Married off love ones together.
I honestly would be lost without Karen. Cats can look after themselves for a while. Dogs will die if their owner leaves them to themselves. Karen is more like a cat. I’m more like a dog.
Anyway, I see how I had loved my bride, but had no idea how that love would grow, over the years, through the trials, in the celebrations, in the day-to-day of everyday and that is how we can know the love of God, which is unknowable. We can’t even comprehend forever and we have forever to experience His love. We can know His love now, but it’s nothing like how we’ll know his love later.
Today we’re going to talk about how to grow ever-deeper into loving God and loving others. Let’s turn to what John has to say about loving God and loving others.
1 John 4:1-20 (NLT) Dear friends, do not believe everyone who claims to speak by the Spirit. You must test them to see if the spirit they have comes from God. For there are many false prophets in the world. This is how we know if they have the Spirit of God: If a person claiming to be a prophet acknowledges that Jesus Christ came in a real body, that person has the Spirit of God. But if someone claims to be a prophet and does not acknowledge the truth about Jesus, that person is not from God. Such a person has the spirit of the Antichrist, which you heard is coming into the world and indeed is already here. But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world. Those people belong to this world, so they speak from the world’s viewpoint, and the world listens to them. But we belong to God, and those who know God listen to us. If they do not belong to God, they do not listen to us. That is how we know if someone has the Spirit of truth or the spirit of deception. Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. Furthermore, we have seen with our own eyes and now testify that the Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God. We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world. Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. We love each other because he loved us first. If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their fellow believers.
Can I pray so Gratitude helps?
Pray for help to love You and love others more and more.
So we’re talking about how to grow in love for God and others.
John makes it clear the we can love each other because God first loved us. Love that comes from God to us and then flow through us back to God and others is perfect love. I want you to realize that we can’t love like God wants us to love without His love first coming to us to flow through us back to God and others.
Do you need more convincing gratitude helps?
To live loved means we love even our enemies
We don’t take revenge… Romans 12:19
If our enemy is hungry we feed them or thirsty we give them something to drink… Romans 12:20
We bless those who curse us… Luke 6:28
We pray for those who persecute us… Matthew 5:44
If someone strikes one cheek, we turn the other to them… Matthew 5:39
We represent our Father who is love and sends rain on the righteous and unrighteous…Matthew 5:45
We can’t do that without His love coming to us and flowing through us back to him and others. We can try…and we’ll be frustrated. We’ll feel taken advantage of and at the bottom.
But when God’s love comes to us and flows through us…that is what we’re created for. It’s our natural state of being. We are loved so we live loved.
How do you Live LOVED?
L - Leave pretence behind Psalm 62:8
O - Operate out of who God says you are Ephesians 2:10
V - Value revelation Romans 8:15-17
E - Embark on having well-healed wounds Psalm 147:3
D - Draw ever-deeper into His Love Ephesians 3:14-19
We need to draw ever-deeper into His love to show love like that to others.
Does it really matter gratitude helps?
That’s a great question. I’ve found 7 reasons why it’s essential.
7 Reasons Why We need to Grow in love for God and others
- Spiritual Fulfillment Matthew 22:37
- Positive Relationships Matthew 22:39
- Emotional Wellness 1 John 4:19
- Moral Guidance 1 Corinthians 13:1
- Personal Growth Galatians 5:22
- Betterment of Society 1 Corinthians 16:14
- Betterment of the gathered church Matthew 18:20
Think about how gratitude helps
Think about what it would be like to be in healthy relationships with people who continue to grow in love with God and others?
Some of you don’t have to. You have them. You are them. That’s awesome. But if you don’t have people in your life who intentionally want to grow in love for God and Others, imagine what it would be like to have those people in your life.
Can you imagine what it feel like to trust God is going to finish the good work He’s started in someone, just like you know He’s going to finish the good work He’s started in you, because you see their love for God and others continue to grow?
The Problem
What’s the most natural way to grow in love with God and others?
That’s a great question. I am so glad you asked.
I need to preface what I’m going to tell with the understanding that I am on Day 18 of a 70-Day Gratitude Challenge where every day for 70-days I
Choose to give thanks – Decision
Feel grateful for what I give thanks for – Emotions
Show appreciation for what I feel gratitude for – Action
Every day for 70 days I give thanks with my whole heart. Find out more at https://revtrev.link/thanks
And in this process I am learning….
Gratitude Grasps Grace
What do I mean by that?
I understand grace FROM God and grace FOR others better, so I can respond and grow in love for God and others more.
Gratitude Grasps Grace
What is Grace?
Most of us have heard acronyms to remember what GRACE is…
God's Riches At Christ's Expense
God's Redemption At Christ's Expense
Gift Received At Christ's Expense
God's Righteousness At Christ's Expense
Great Redeemer And Compassionate Empathizer
God's Rescue And Compassion Extended
We’ve trivialized grace in an attempt to grasp it. All of them focus on part of an aspect of grace.
But they don’t help us grasp grace like gratitude does.
Gratitude grasps grace
The best definition for grace that I’ve ever heard is:
Grace is God’s empowerment to do the things he wants us but we’re not able to do on our own.
What do I mean by that? What does God want us to do that we can't do without His help?
By grace we are saved. Ephesians 2:8-9
By grace we are justified. Romans 3:24
By grace we are sanctified. 1 Corinthians 15:10
By grace we are empowered. 2 Corinthians 12:9
By grace we have the gifts of the Spirt. Romans 12:6
By grace we persevere. Hebrews 13:9
By grace we have unity. Ephesians 4:7
By grace we have forgiveness. Acts 15:11
By grace we have hope and assurance. Romans 5:2
By grace we have sustenance in trials. 1 Peter 5:10
We have grace in our weakness. 2 Corinthians 12:9
We have grace in our time of need. Hebrews 4:16
Grace teaches us. Titus 2:11-12
Grace keeps us from sin. Romans 5:20
Everything God wants us to do, that we can’t do on our own. His grace is sufficient. 2 Corinthians 12:9
Why is it important that gratitude grasps grace?
We naturally respond to grace with love. It’s the kindness of God that leads us to repentance.
The more we know and experience grace, the more we’ll grow and know love from God that we can pass on to God and others.
And GRATITUDE grasps grace.
How to you draw ever-deeper into His love?
That’s another great question, I’m so glad you asked.
When we grasp grace with GRATITUDE we grow in love with God and others.
Gratitude grasps grace. We naturally respond to grace with love. It’s the kindness of God that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4). If we want to grow in love for God and others we need to better experience grace and so we start with gratitude.
Grasp Grace with GRATITUDE Tool
G - Give thanks with your whole heart. Psalm 86:12
R - Remember to FEEL gratitude. Colossians 3:15
A - Appreciate what you feel gratitude for. Psalm 9:1-2
T - Turn to prayer with thanksgiving. Philippians 4:6
I - Integrate thanksgiving with worship. Psalm 100:4
T - Thrive as gratitude connect you to His presence. Psalm 95:2
U - Understand peace through giving thanks. Colossians 3:12-15
D - Decide to give thanks IN all things. 1 Thessalonians 5:18
E - Enjoy giving thanks FOR things naturally. Ephesians 5:18-20
Let’s unpack this.
G - Give thanks with your whole heart.
Psalm 86:12 I give thanks to you, O Lord my God, with my whole heart, and I will glorify your name forever.
Giving thanks is a decision.
The Hebrews understood the whole heart to be the seat of our decisions, emotions and actions. So we need to decide to give thanks, feel gratitude and show appreciation.
It is a decision to give thanks to God with your whole heart. It’s a decision that becomes easier with training and an emotion we need to embrace, as well as an action we need to do.
Giving thanks to people can just be the polite thing to do, but people know when you express heartfelt gratitude. You know when it’s given to you. What makes you feel better —a quick “thank you” because of social convention or the warm embrace of genuine gratitude? I know what I appreciate and I know what I want to learn to naturally share.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude is a choice.
Am I giving thanks with my whole heart?
R - Remember to feel gratitude.
Colossians 3:15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.
Feeling gratitude is important. There was a study that had people feel gratitude for a specific things and then write what they felt gratitude for in a gratitude journal https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/gratitude_journal
Two things were important - they needed to feel grateful and write it down in a journal. What they were testing—unbeknownst to them—was giving thanks with their whole heart. People had to decide, feel and do.
In the study, people reported being 10% happier in 21 days.
Does that sound impressive? Well if your income doubled in 21 days you’d be 10% happier, so it is significant.
Feeling gratitude takes away the rote-ness of form of social contention or personal habit of giving heartless thanks. It revolutionizes our relationship with God and revolutionizes our relationship with others. Because it places us in that present moment and we are fully there.
I’m telling you feeling gratitude is amazing.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude puts us in the moment.
Do I feel gratitude for what I decide to give thanks for?
A - Appreciate what you feel gratitude for.
Psalm 9:1-2 I will praise you, Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all the marvellous things you have done. I will be filled with joy because of you. I will sing praises to your name, O Most High.
Showing appreciation is the third part of giving thanks with your whole heart. It puts action to your decision and emotion.
Appreciation to God is praise. It’s a natural response to thanksgiving.
Appreciation to others is showing them in a way that they’d appreciate as appreciation. What do I mean by that? Remember Proverbs 27:14 A loud and cheerful greeting early in the morning will be taken as a curse!
Gratitude helps. Gratitude needs an action.
Do I show appropriate appreciation for what I feel grateful for?
T - Turn to prayer with thanksgiving.
Philippians 4:6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.
How can you worry about nothing, pray about everything the thank him for everything?
We need to start by understanding we can cast our cares on him BECAUSE he cares for us. (1 Peter 5:7) Gratitude helps us to understand that he cares for us. With gratitude we see how he’s done it in the past. We see how he’s done it for others. We see grace at work in our lives and others.
So when we go to prayer we can exchange our problems for his peace.
When I go to prayer for others, sometimes I can plead to God on their behalf. Sometimes that’s appropriate intercession. Often it’s me asking God “If you can do anything…” As if I can plead my case properly something would be done. That’s not how we should ever intercede. Thanksgiving for who they are and what God is doing in their life, radically changes prayers for others. I can know that since God is going finish the good work He’s started in me until the day of Christ Jesus, He will finish the good work He’s started in them until that day as well. I start speaking blessing instead of cursing.
Did you know that studies in neuroplasticity strongly suggest that we can’t be anxious and grateful at the same time? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5506019/
Paul had it right: Worry about nothing. Pray about everything. Thank God in all things.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude empowers our prayers.
Do I exchange my problems for His peace?
I - Integrate thanksgiving with worship.
Psalm 100:4 Enter his gates with thanksgiving; go into his courts with praise. Give thanks to him and praise his name.
Heartfelt gratitude for who God is and what He has done leads us to worship that is done in spirit and truth. We need to praise God with our whole heart and thanksgiving helps us with the decision, the emotion and the action.
With gratitude, we remember; with thanksgiving we celebrate the now, with appreciation we look forward with hope and anticipation. Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise.
Worship changes our perspective. Gratitude changes our perspective. It does it for God. It does it for others. Let me give you an example.
When my wife comes home and tells me about her day, I can see it as impinging on my telling her about my day, OR I can thank God that she trusts me to hold a safe space for her to self-express her thoughts, feeling and emotions without judgement, criticism or condemnation.
Thanking God for her, even in that moment changes my approach. Gratitude changes my perspective.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude changes our perspective.
Do I let gratitude change my perspective?
T - Thrive as gratitude connect you to His presence.
Psalm 95:2 Let us come to him with thanksgiving. Let us sing psalms of praise to him.
God is always with us. It’s easiest to be with Him when we’re thankful to him and for others. Gratitude allows us enter his presence.
Try it next time you feel that you can’t stop and feel His presence. Do this:
Be still. Be grateful…and soon be in awe.
Gratitude connects.
Gratitude helps us to connect with each other - it fosters positive relationships (1 Thessalonians 5:11) enhances empathy and understanding (Colossians 3:15), promotes forgiveness (Ephesians 4:32), creates a positive atmosphere when we gather (Philippians 1:3), encourages acts of service (2 Corinthians 9:11).
Gratitude connects us all.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude connects.
Do I connect with God and others with thanksgiving?
U - Understand peace through giving thanks.
Colossians 3:12-15 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony. And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.
If you want to grow in love with God and Others, you’ll want to pursue peace with God and peace with others.
You have peace with God because of Christ’s work on the cross (Romans 5:1)
For each other we need to seek peace and pursue it.
One thing I’ve learned we can do is to: Ask Holy Spirit what He loves about them. It helps you to get a new appreciation for them. Then show them that you appreciate them.
Peace rules in our heart. Gratitude protects our heart.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude protects our peace.
Do I seek peace and pursue it?
D - Decide to give thanks IN all things.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.
We are commanded to give thanks in every situation. It’s God’s will for us and good for us.
God’s will is for us to give thanks in all circumstances. It not only encourage us, it encourages the people around us. I’m not talking about the un-heartfelt declaration of thanks, I trust you understand.
When we give thanks with our whole heart - our decision, our emotion and our action - Gratitude changes the reality around us.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude changes the reality around us
Am I choosing to give thanks in all circumstances?
E - Enjoy giving thanks FOR things naturally.
Ephesians 5:18-21 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
The command in this verse is to be continually filled with Holy Spirit. https://revtrev.com/living-light/what-is-toxic-gratitude-and-what-is-the-only-way-to-always-avoid-it/
When we are continually being filled by the Spirit we will be…
Speaking to one another with songs and hymns and Spiritual songs
Singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord.
Giving thanks always to God the Father for everything
Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ
Giving thanks FOR everything is the natural response for being continually filled.
And as we are filled we treat each other really good.
Gratitude helps. Gratitude flows naturally.
Do I naturally give thanks FOR all things?
Wrap up so Gratitude Helps
We grow in love for God and Others as we experience more and more about grace and gratitude grasps grace.
So let GRATITUDE help you to remember…
G - Give thanks with your whole heart. Psalm 86:12
Gratitude is a choice.
Am I giving thanks with my whole heart?
R - Remember to FEEL gratitude. Colossians 3:15
Gratitude needs to be felt.
Do I feel gratitude for what I decide to give thanks for?
A - Appreciate what you feel gratitude for. Psalm 9:1-2
Gratitude needs an action.
Do I show appropriate appreciation for what I feel grateful for?
T - Turn to prayer with thanksgiving. Philippians 4:6
Gratitude empowers our prayers.
Do I exchange my problems for His peace?
I - Integrate thanksgiving with worship. Psalm 100:4
Gratitude changes our perspective.
Do I let gratitude change my perspective?
T - Thrive as gratitude connect you to His presence. Psalm 95:2
Gratitude connects.
Do I connect with God and others with thanksgiving?
U - Understand peace through giving thanks. Colossians 3:12-15
Gratitude protects our peace.
Do I seek peace and pursue it?
D - Decide to give thanks IN all things. 1 Thessalonians 5:18
Gratitude changes the reality around us.
Am I choosing to give thanks in all circumstances?
E - Enjoy giving thanks FOR things naturally. Ephesians 5:18-20
Gratitude flows naturally.
Do I naturally give thanks FOR all things?
Gratitude grasps grace. We naturally respond to grace with love. It’s the kindness of God that leads us to repentance (Romans 2:4). If we want to grow in love for God and others we need to better experience grace and so we start with gratitude.
Full circle…
And now, just as you accepted Christ Jesus as your Lord, you must continue to follow him. Let your roots grow down into him, and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong in the truth you were taught, and you will overflow with thankfulness. Colossians 2:6-7
Next step so gratitude helps…
Will you pick up the gratitude challenge?
I’ve set it 70 days because three sets of 21 days forms new neural pathways in your brain and you will naturally give thanks in all situations. You don’t need my help, but I do have tools to help you.
Every day for 70 days, give thanks with your whole heart.
Choose to give thanks – Decision
Feel grateful for what you give thanks for – Emotions
Show appreciation for what you feel gratitude for – Action
Read more or sign up for the free course >>> revtrev.link/thanks
Application so Gratitude Helps
I want you to practice giving thanks for your whole heart.
Play music. - Enter His gates with thanksgiving and courts with praise
Quiet yourself. - Be still and know He is God.
Ask Holy Spirit : What do you want me to feel thankful for today?
Play the music. Let me centre us in prayer…
